Over a year ago, I lost the love of my life after 28 years of marriage, which brought me into a club that I wanted no part of joining. Twice in the last 2 days, I have met 2 young women who have also become a part of the club over the last year. You see, it doesn’t matter how long you have been married; the pain is just as bad when you lose the love of your life. One of the women shared that they were trying to have a baby before he was tragically killed. The thing is, I have lost both parents now, and nothing compares to the loss of a spouse! If you really want to help someone who has lost a spouse, please stop telling them that you understand or how you lost a parent. It is not the same and never will be, and that is just the way life goes. The reality many will continue to join the club each and every day. Once you become a member of the club, you will have a unique bond with total strangers
The Crash Is Here!
The big crash that the one closest to me ( these days) knew was coming has arrived in all it’s glory! After 10 years of being a caregiver for my beloved wife ( and her death) and a new health issue for me ( the first major one without her) the big emotional and physical toll if all of it gas finally caught up with me. The bigger question is why did it take so long? It has been coming like a train through a darken tunnel for a very,very long time. I am extremely isolated, I eat everything in sight and frankly I really have no big desire to speak with anyone. Which of course is the wrong course of action. Some would say that is a sign of depression and they would be right. You’d be depressed too if you were in my shoes. I sit in a 3 bedroom house with a cat. I can’t drive because if a health issue ( my doctor is right about that. It would be unsafe for me or the public if I drove)
However, that being said unless you have walked in my shoes there is no way anyone can truly understand. The thing is I am in no danger if hurting myself. I have no desire or energy for that stuff.
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